You built a life most people
only dream about
So why does it feel like
something's missing?
You left home on purpose. You're living in a country you chose. But that doesn't make the loneliness, doubt, anxiety, or uncertainty go away. If any of this sounds familiar, you're in the right place.
Book a Free 20-Minute ConsultationOnline Therapy for Expats
Who Need More Than Coping Skills
Most therapists work competently with what's visible. But expat life layers things: cultural friction beneath relationship strain, identity erosion beneath anxiety, avoidance beneath the adventure narrative. A therapist without that frame misses what matters.
I built The Other Therapy so expats, digital nomads, and intercultural couples could work with someone who already has that frame. The work goes deeper from the start.
Expat-Friendly Online Therapy
Individual Therapy
For the anxiety, avoidance, self-doubt, and depression you've been managing alone.
Learn more →Couples Therapy
For couples willing to look at their own role in what's not working, not just their partner's.
Learn more →Walk & Talk Therapy
Therapy on foot along the Bosphorus, on ferries between continents, and through Istanbul's oldest neighbourhoods. In-person only. For individuals, couples, and small groups.
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I Live This Life, Too
I'm an American therapist based in Istanbul, married to a Turkish woman, raising a daughter between two cultures. I've been the foreigner in the room. I've navigated the identity shift that comes with building a life far from where you started.
I came to Istanbul in my early 20s planning to stay a week. I stayed a year, worked as a tour guide, and became fascinated by what makes people tick. That led me to graduate school in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Naropa University, then a private practice in Denver, then back to Istanbul for good.
I built The Other Therapy because expats needed a therapist who already has the frame. A therapist without expat experience works competently with what's visible. I see what's underneath without needing it spelled out: the cultural friction beneath relationship strain, the identity erosion beneath anxiety, the grief beneath guilt. That means the work goes deeper from the start.
What Makes This Different
I See What's Underneath
A therapist without expat experience works competently with what's visible. I already have the frame. I see the cultural friction beneath relationship strain, the identity erosion beneath anxiety, and the avoidance beneath the adventure. The work goes deeper from the start.
Getting Better, Not Feeling Better
Most therapy helps you manage discomfort. I'm interested in what creates it. That means working with the patterns you repeat, the feelings you avoid, and the defenses that cost more than they protect. Deeper work, faster results.
I'll Tell You What I See
Including the ways you might be getting in your own way. That's not comfortable, but it's where real change happens. My clients say this is what sets the work apart from therapy they've done before.
What We'll Work
on Together
This work focuses less on what happened to you and more on what you're doing now that gets in the way.
Understanding Your Anxiety
Not just managing it. Understanding what drives it and the defensive moves you make that keep it in place.
Repairing Your Relationships
Look at what you do that gets in the way of closeness, not just what your partner does. Especially when cultural differences are easy to blame.
Breaking Avoidance Patterns
You've built ways of protecting yourself that made sense once. Now they're running the show. This work is about facing what you've been avoiding.
Identity and Self-Doubt
Living abroad changes who you are. The self-doubt, the imposter feelings, the sense that you've lost the plot. We look at what's underneath.
Intercultural Tensions
The friction between cultures is real. But sometimes "cultural differences" becomes the explanation for things that are about you. We sort out which is which.
Depression and Disconnection
The heaviness, the withdrawal, the going-through-the-motions. Often there are feelings underneath that you've spent a long time not facing.
Testimonials
Trevor's demeanor, thoughtful listening skills, and valuable questions empowered me to speak candidly. He was able to reframe and demystify things that I believed to be absolutes.
Korey K., FloridaAs an intercultural couple, we felt misunderstood by traditional therapists. In The Other Therapy we found someone with first-hand experience. It's been a profound experience.
P&D, TurkeySince I started with Trevor, I've made huge progress. He strikes the perfect balance between empathy and challenging my old beliefs. I wouldn't be the same person today without him.
Wendy L., AustraliaNot ready to book? Send me a question
Investment
- ✓ 60-minute session
- ✓ One-on-one with Trevor
- ✓ Online via secure video
- ✓ Psychodynamic and ISTDP approach
- ✓ 75-minute session
- ✓ Both partners in session
- ✓ Online via secure video
- ✓ RLT and PACT approach
Frequently Asked
Not in technique, but in context. Expats deal with identity shifts, cultural friction, and a specific kind of loneliness most therapists don't have experience with. I do, because I live it. That shared context means we skip explanations and start the actual work sooner.
Completely free. 20-minute video call. No forms, no commitment. We'll talk about what's going on and whether therapy makes sense.
Psychodynamic and relational. I'm less interested in helping you manage symptoms and more interested in what you're doing, often without realizing it, that creates your own difficulty. That can sound confronting, but it's freeing: if the problem is something you're doing, it's something you can change.
I'm based in Istanbul (GMT+3) and schedule across time zones daily. All sessions over secure video. All you need is a private space and reliable internet.
It's one of my specialties. I'm in an intercultural marriage myself, trained in PACT and Relational Life Therapy. I understand how cultural differences show up in daily moments, not just big conflicts.
Free 20-Minute
Consultation
Pick a time. No forms, no commitment.